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what will your guests remember from your wedding? what is your wedding really about?
I was just reading through some wedding prep blogs and found myself unreasonably frustrated with women fretting over the cost of an open bar vs. the fact that they “owe it” to their friends to have one, the ideal centerpiece vs. the $300 price tag per arrangement, and elaborate cakes.
Has anyone actually eaten wedding cake? Because mine usually gets taken away while I’m on the dance floor or off talking to other guests. And the few cakes I have eaten, I don’t remember. Which is rather sad, given the enormous price tag associated with wedding cakes. I love dessert way more than the next person, and I want yummy things at my wedding, but how about a dessert table with pies and cupcakes and brownies? That way your guests have some options, wonderful food, and you pay less.
As for open bars, I feel like there is too much pressure on the wedded couple to provide alcohol so that guests can drink their way to fun. I like the idea of offering beer, wine, and a signature drink. I wouldn’t want people attending my wedding just for an open bar, and a fun party celebrating the love of two people and the support of f&f shouldn’t drive the couple into debt.
Okay, I’m done sniping. Have some donuts.
Welcome to Ampersand! I’m going to leap headfirst into the wedding planning waters and discuss my philosophy of weddings and wedding dresses. First, the eye candy:
Amsale Blush gown
The taffeta gown (on the left) is by Amsale Blush; it’s $320 at Saks. (They call it “camel,” but I’m going with gray.)
BCBG Max Azria gown
The white is BCBG Max Azria; it’s $360 at Nordstrom.
Yes, I do believe you can have a gorgeous wedding dress for under $500 (just think! then you can spend another $500 on shoes, borrow mom’s jewelry, and your whole wedding garb is under $1K, which is at least 1/5 of the usual grand gown ensemble). I know I am not the first or only person to think that a wedding dress doesn’t need to a) look like something a Disney princess would wear (not that there is anything wrong with that!) or b) cost the equivalent of a down payment.
In fact, this whole blog is going to be devoted to weddings outside of what $2,000 wedding’s Sara calls “the wedding industrial complex.” So let’s get that straight right now. If you’re idea of the perfect day is a lavish wedding possibly mistaken for a million dollar fundraising gala, this is probably not the blog for you.
If, on the other hand, your wedding ideas center around a celebration of love and commitment with the support of friends and family with more emphasis on quality (as in the honesty of your love) than quantity (as in monogrammed favors that no one really wants), then you might recognize yourself here. Welcome!
