what will your guests remember from your wedding?  what is your wedding really about? 

I was just reading through some wedding prep blogs and found myself unreasonably frustrated with women fretting over the cost of an open bar vs. the fact that they “owe it” to their friends to have one, the ideal centerpiece vs. the $300 price tag per arrangement, and elaborate cakes. 

Has anyone actually eaten wedding cake?  Because mine usually gets taken away while I’m on the dance floor or off talking to other guests.  And the few cakes I have eaten, I don’t remember.  Which is rather sad, given the enormous price tag associated with wedding cakes.  I love dessert way more than the next person, and I want yummy things at my wedding, but how about a dessert table with pies and cupcakes and brownies?  That way your guests have some options, wonderful food, and you pay less.

As for open bars, I feel like there is too much pressure on the wedded couple to provide alcohol so that guests can drink their way to fun.  I like the idea of offering beer, wine, and a signature drink.  I wouldn’t want people attending my wedding just for an open bar, and a fun party celebrating the love of two people and the support of f&f shouldn’t drive the couple into debt.

Okay, I’m done sniping.  Have some donuts.